Let me just preface this by saying I am not bragging about my son here. I am a little unsure how to deal with this. I choose to laugh because it is getting a little ridiculous. I laugh because I am also a little freaked out. You may choose to think what I have to tell you is cute. I am a little disturbed by it all, and I feel a little sorry for Isaac and for the girls who continue to basically throw themselves at him.
Isaac came home and told us that some girl had declared her undying love for him. Isaac is not bragging either, he is a little overwhelmed by the attention. Especially when said girl wrote all her flowery feelings down in a letter. As Isaac said there were similes and metaphors involved in the writing and although I did not read it (he crumpled up and threw it away) some of the things this girl said about Isaac's eyes make me really embarrassed for her. It also made me laugh really hard, which also makes me embarrassed for her. Isaac doesn't really know her well. But what makes it even more awkward is that she is his wife in the school play. Poor kid. And poor girl. Her friend told her she should take more risks and she did. Nice but stupid friend.
This is not the first incident of this kind of teenage girl love this month either. A few weeks earlier a girl asked if he would be her boyfriend. This girl is actually a good friend of his but he told me she reminds him of his sister. Thank heavens he didn't say that to her.
He politely declined and told her he couldn't go on dates until he was 16 and that he had a relationship before that turned out bad. I thought he handled it well. He was a little concerned. The girl did not come to school the next day.
"She will be fine" I told him. "At least you didn't tell her she reminded you of your sister."
That same week some girl's friend came up and asked Isaac if she liked her friend (I admit this is a little less aggressive).
I have had to tell some of Rebecca's 10 year old friends to leave Isaac alone too. One of them told him she would pay for his movie ticket if he would please just come with Rebecca and her friends to the movies. Poor Becca.
And anyways why are all these girls so aggressively going after boys? Do they really think that flowery love notes saying "I will never break your heart." to a 13 year old boy are going to make those boys feel anything but uncomfortable. And 13 year old boys -- at least most of them -- are uncomfortable when you throw yourselves at them and they have to try and be gentlemen and not hurt your feelings. Because as Isaac knows well already, when you hurt a girl's feelings you also offend her circle of friends and that never turns out pretty.
Please middle school girls restrain your raging hormones. Boys do not want to feel cornered by your undying love when they are 13. They may like you, it's true. Probably just not quite as much as you like them.
Phew Mama Bear got that off her chest. Feel a little better now.
2 comments:
Girls are crazy as I am finding out with how Ash is. I never would have acted like this and it seems crazy that I have a daughter who does. We have many talks about what is appropriate and what is not. It is scary.
Melinda I am grateful you talk to her. As my friend said, TV seems to sell that this is how girls should act. I am hoping that my daughters will see Isaac's reaction and temper their behavior as they get older.
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